Is it true that “No News is Good News?” This week, our interactions with Mom were difficult and depressing. We were unable to connect emotionally with her via the video chat, though she looked well and was certainly responsive to the staff who tried to coax her to interact with us.
When we expressed our frustration to the director of Mom’s facility, she invited us to once again meet with Mom outside in the facility courtyard. The August heat is unbearable, though, so I wrote back to her that we’d wait for cooler weather to interact in person. The director responded that perhaps this Corona crisis would be over by then. As if.
And so we are in a holding pattern. I think my dad is reacting more emotionally than I am to this state of affairs. It is an acknowledgment that Alzheimer’s is indeed claiming more and more of Mom. When we call to talk to my oldest son and his two boys, we understand what a difference an interactive call can be to the psyche. The baby, 9-months-old, is curious about our faces, while the four-year-old actively converses with us. I have made the parallel before to Mom’s shutting “up like a telescope” to the kids’ phenomenal growth and development. It could not be more apparent in these last few months.
No news is just news in this case. I wish it were more positive.
Cooking what you know is easy on the soul. Lose yourself in something complicated or a dish you can make blindfolded. When I knew my soldier son would be home for dinner, my daughter and I decided to make pizza. I haven’t made pizza in about a year, but I used to make it weekly when the kids were young. It’s definitely a dish that is easier to make with assistance. The difficulty is preparing all the elements in advance so that you’re ready to construct the pizza in a timely manner.
Homemade Pizza
When I make pizza, I usually make the sauce as well, but I bowed to my daughter’s pressure to use a prepared sauce. Definitely less work. And still tasty. I doubled all the ingredients to make two pizzas.
Dough:
1½ tsp dry yeast
1 Tbsp sugar
1 cup warm water
3 cups flour
½ tsp salt
Toppings:
½ cup yellow cheese, grated
½ cup mozzarella cheese, grated
1 onion, sliced
1 red pepper, sliced
1 cup mushrooms, sliced
½ cup olives, sliced (if you’re Israeli)
Sauce:
260 grams / 9 oz prepared pizza sauce
Directions:
Proof yeast in bowl with sugar and warm water. When it starts to fizz, add flour and salt. Mix then knead together until dough is formed and all ingredients are thoroughly combined. Let rise up to an hour (half an hour in a pinch). Meanwhile, ready sauce, cheeses and vegetables. Punch down dough to remove any air bubbles, then roll out thin with a rolling pin to a size larger than the pan you are using. Drape rolled dough on the pan then roll edges to form crust. Brush sauce on dough surface, add cheese and vegetables, then bake at 425° F / 200° C for 25 minutes.
Photo by Liora Green
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I used to make pizza for the family. A few years ago the kids asked me to make it when they came to visit, and I had no idea what the recipe had been. It was a disaster.
I actually made a very tasty cauliflower crust pizza. It's also on my blog.
You would laugh at the pizza I make. It is a Slimming World recipe. You use raw cauliflower which is blitzed to make crumbs. Cook for 5 minutes in the microwave. Cool and add eggs and oregano to it and season. Mix well and put the loose mixture spread out onto greased baking parchment. Then you cook it for a while in the oven. You take it out and turn it over and cook for another 10 minutes. Then you spread tomato puree and add all the healthy toppings with grated cheese (measured out) and put it back in the oven for 10 minutes. You would not know you weren't eating the real thing (you keep telling yourself). …
You have carried a heavy burden for a long, long way, Miriam. You and your family always have a place in my heart and my prayers.